You were not there when I was eleven years old
And a friend forced to have sex with him
You were not there when he threatened me and
Told me that if I told any one that he would kill me
You were not there when my mom told me to
Just forget about it and move on
You were not there when two black men raped
Me in a dorm room,
You were not there when a police officer looked at
Me and told me that I deserved what they did because
I was drinking underage and the two men had
You were not there when I went upstairs
And wanted to jump off of the building but
The stairs were blocked with a locked gate
You were not there when a friend took
Me in the bathroom and raped me
You were not there when my friend looked
Right me and told me that her friend would never do a
Thing like that
You were not there when I fell apart and
Started drinking more and more because I wanted the pain to stop
You were not there the day
When he forced himself on top of me
You were not there the night
When he waited for me to pass out
From drinking too much
You were not there when he
Took what I did not consent to
You were not there when I had the rape kit
Done and the stupid male officer forgot to
Cut hairs and had to come back in to cut hairs
You were not there when I was told that it
Was my fault by chain of command?
You were not there when Senior Chief said to me,
“We believe you but there is nothing that we can do
About this. Promise me that you will go to counseling. ”
You were not there when Chief called me a liar and
Would not let me leave the ship to go to counseling
Appointment at rape crisis center.
You were not there when I started to cut my arm and
Burned my arm.
You were not there when I started to have flashbacks, nightmares
And wanted to kill myself
You were not there when Chief started telling me that I
Was fat and that I was nothing more than a walking mattress
That deserved to be raped.
You were not there when the chain of command would do
Nothing about my knee and called me a liar about that too.
You were not there when I was discharged because I had gained
Weight because of Post-Traumatic Stress and the problem with my
You were not there when I started going to the VA for therapy
And fell apart during EMDR.
You were not there when the bastard that raped me sent me
An email straight up admitting to it and NCIS still did nothing
You were not here when I got call from Special Agent saying,
“We do not care what he admitted to. We have to investigate you
And know who all you slept with and about any other sexual assaults.”
You were not here when I threw phone across the room and fell apart.
You were not here when that destroyed me and I wanted to die
You were not here when I was triggered by the way a woman
Came at me and I got into fight.
You were not here when I cut my thighs over 40 times because I hated
Myself and wished that the bastard that had raped me had killed me.
You were not here when I lost three jobs because of Post-Traumatic Stress
Then you ignore what survivors have told you over and over again
And you only listen to the damn brass that have everything to lose.
Then you ignore survivors of university rape, childhood rape, and do nothing
About human trafficking.
You were not raped so how in the hell do you know what it is like?
How you do know what the chain of command does and does not do?
You have not been raped, so shut up and freaking listen to survivors
That know firsthand what it is to be raped, betrayed, thrown away,
Have life destroyed.
You have not been in my shoes.
So sit down, shut the hell up and listen to what I have told you and
My life has been changed forever.
I cannot just forget it.
I do not want to hear a damn thing from you until you
Know what it is like to be raped and have your life destroyed.