Do not judge me when I need my space. Do not judge me when something said to me triggers memories. Do not judge me when I will not leave the house. Do not judge me when I am afraid of men and do not want men around me. Do not judge me when I wake up from nightmares or have flashbacks. Do not judge me when I get into fight or flight and take off from where I am at. Do not tell me to just forget it and move on. Do not tell me that I am victimizing myself by talking about what happened to me. That is the quickest way to hurt me and push me away from you. Also, that is the quickest way to shut me down and to never come back around. Don’t avoid me when I am upset. Do not tell me that I am overreacting. Do not tell me that what happened was not that bad. Do not tell me to suck it up and move on. Please do some research and try to understand what military sexual trauma does to a person. Try to learn as much as you can about Complex Post Traumatic Stress, Depression, Anxiety, Post Traumatic Stress. Try to understand what having a chain of command is like when they retaliate against you, tell you that you are nothing, ruins your career, does nothing when he admits it. What it is like to be on deployment and not being able to get away from the people that tell you over and over and over and over again that you are nothing, that what happened did not happen, that you are lying. When I ask for you to be there please just be there. I am not asking you to fix me. I am not asking you to do counseling. I see a counselor and the counselor is helping me. What I am just asking for a friend to be a support and listen. Sometimes all I want is for someone to just hold me and a therapist will not do that.Just be there for me so that I do not feel alone.